The end of a marriage is a problematic time in your life because you are dealing with the end of one way of life and venturing into the unknown. It doesn’t matter if the marriage was a great one or a rocky one. You will still likely feel some sense of loss from the end of it.
There are many reasons why you might have grief in this situation. You may mourn the loss of the dreams you had for the union. You could feel as though you wasted a good portion of your life on the marriage. Finding ways to deal with all of these emotions can help you survive the divorce and move toward a stable future.
Find support
Having a good support system is imperative when you are going through a major life upheaval. This might be from family members and friends, but you may also find help by going to support groups for people who are going through a similar situation. If you have children, you might have to try to attend meetings when the kids are with your ex.
Embrace your feelings
You are going to have a wide range of feeling that might go and come suddenly. You might be uncertain about how you will be able to move forward on your own. You may worry about whether you will be able to support yourself. You can feel upset about the fact that you don’t have the lifelong partner you thought you would. There is a chance you will feel sad that the marriage ended and anger that you spent so much of your life married. Embrace those feelings and address them. You can use them productively as fuel to better your future.
Take care of yourself
You aren’t a superhuman, so you shouldn’t feel as though you can do everything on your own without caring for yourself. You need to stay busy so you aren’t constantly thinking about the what-ifs, but make sure that you leave time for you to rest. Self-care doesn’t always have to be a huge ordeal. You can take five minutes per day to jot down your feelings or stop to take time to read an uplifting book.
Another way that you can help yourself is to ensure that you are doing what’s in your best interests during the divorce. You don’t need to be stuck with assets that are costing more than you can afford. As you go through the divorce, keep control of your own destiny by not allowing your ex to dictate your actions and reactions.