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4 tips for communicating with your spouse during divorce

On Behalf of | Nov 10, 2020 | Divorce |

Even though you may not have originally planned on divorcing your spouse, divorce is a common experience for many. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, in 2018, 782,038 divorces occurred in the U.S.

As you work towards a settlement, you may find it is difficult to communicate with your spouse about divorce-related issues. Here are some tips for enhancing your communication at this time to encourage a smoother divorce process.

1. Focus on imminent issues

As you discuss issues like child custody and property division, it is easy to let the conversation get away from you and start arguing about other things. Try to focus your conversations on the matter at hand and refrain from delving into past problems.

2. Set boundaries

Set boundaries with your spouse, even if your divorce is amicable. At the beginning of your divorce, set expectations about how you will communicate with each other, whether that is through phone calls, emails or even text messages.

3. Stay cautious of your tone

It is tempting to speak sarcastically, rudely or angrily when conversing with your spouse. Try to avoid using negative tones when speaking with your spouse and remain calm and collected.

4. Rely on a mediator

Depending on the circumstances of your divorce, it may be difficult to make headway on certain issues alone. You may want to work with a mediator who can guide the conversations between you and your spouse, so you can come to a settlement and finalize your divorce.


Contact Dorothea G. Aguero, Attorney at Law, P.C.