Divorce is often considered to be one of the most traumatic experiences children can have during their developmental years. Your children love both of their parents, and they don't want to have to decide where they want to live in a custody dispute. They also shouldn't need to listen to days of testimony while you both air your grievances about the other's worst behaviors during your marriage.
Divorce is a frustrating, often expensive experience. One of the biggest expenses is often child support and spousal support. During the initial phase of divorce, legal separation, one spouse typically files for divorce and requests a temporary custody and support order. That often means that the person who doesn't file is suddenly relegated to weekend visits with their children, while being expected to pay a substantial amount for their care and upkeep.